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He's Not Lazy: Empowering Your Son to Believe In Himself

He's Not Lazy: Empowering Your Son to Believe In Himself

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  • Create Date：2021-11-18 20:21:13
  • Update Date：2025-09-06
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  • Author：Adam Price
  • ISBN：145494353X
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Reviews

Melissa ，

One of the only parenting books I think I will go back and reference。 I wouldn’t necessarily consider my kids “opt out” but more “not living up to their potential。” Yes， at times they seem incredibly lazy。 But this book gave me a new perspective。 Highlighted a lot and will come back to remind myself to step back and give them autonomy。 And that the journey and process of figuring out life is more important than grades。

Ashton ，

Nothing revolutionary。

Nicole Harada ，

Appreciated the thought provoking ideas in this book。 Helped to take a hard look at where I am as a parent， where my partner is， and where I want us to be。 I am not the parent who thought they were lazy。 But I loved the insight and factual information about the development and growth of teenage boys。 We are just starting our teenage journey but glad to have this under my belt！ Now to just get my partner to read it

Jen （bookscoffeedogs） ，

Wow。 The negative reviews of this one are way crazy。 If it doesn’t pertain to you fine， but that doesn’t make it not valid， and to say this book if for kids who get Cs and are otherwise going down a less than stellar path in life is way off the mark。 This is a book for parents of teenage boys that aren’t in 100 AP classes， getting straight A’s， motivated to score 1500 on the SATs， or otherwise school uninterested。 It certainly doesn’t make them uninterested in the rest of life， to make that assu Wow。 The negative reviews of this one are way crazy。 If it doesn’t pertain to you fine， but that doesn’t make it not valid， and to say this book if for kids who get Cs and are otherwise going down a less than stellar path in life is way off the mark。 This is a book for parents of teenage boys that aren’t in 100 AP classes， getting straight A’s， motivated to score 1500 on the SATs， or otherwise school uninterested。 It certainly doesn’t make them uninterested in the rest of life， to make that assumption is seriously a lack of experience with teens。 I have seen many boys sort of wander into their 20s with not a lot of direction。 This book is for the parents of those bright， capable， curious， but academically sort of avoidant kiddos。 In our silly hyper competitive race for achievement in schools， we sometimes lose the engagement of SOME kids。 This is not a book for every parent of every kid， but if your son is school adverse， bored， interested in other things rather than school， sometimes overwhelmed with where to begin， works hard at things he enjoys， this book might be for you。 The advice given might not work for every situation， but as a parent who also speaks to a lot of other parents， it carries validity for some situations。 Other parents have other struggles with teens and there are other books for those。 I found this great and helped put into perspective what I have experienced and seen in the academic world around me。 。。。more

Barb Abbey ，

This book helped me have a better perspective and more empathy for my son。 Although much of this book was not directly helpful to my personal situation， the advice/paradigm shifts can be applied regardless。 To me it seemed more about the parent and how to relate to your son versus tips on how to "handle" your son。 Exactly what is needed in my case。 This book helped me have a better perspective and more empathy for my son。 Although much of this book was not directly helpful to my personal situation， the advice/paradigm shifts can be applied regardless。 To me it seemed more about the parent and how to relate to your son versus tips on how to "handle" your son。 Exactly what is needed in my case。 。。。more

Mary Holt-Wilson ，

When providing advice for scaffolding boys with executive functioning issues and "opt out" tendencies， Price often contradicts himself。 Parents should back off and simultaneously provide support by modeling strategies and implementing certain types of consequences for behavior that continues to hold the boy back。 It's pretty tough to do both。。。back completely off in order to allow your child to grow and learn， and also force support on him。However， the first and last chapters of this book were p When providing advice for scaffolding boys with executive functioning issues and "opt out" tendencies， Price often contradicts himself。 Parents should back off and simultaneously provide support by modeling strategies and implementing certain types of consequences for behavior that continues to hold the boy back。 It's pretty tough to do both。。。back completely off in order to allow your child to grow and learn， and also force support on him。However， the first and last chapters of this book were priceless in terms of normalizing， for me， my son's behavior， and helping me to understand that I cannot make him grow and learn any faster than his age/brain allows， despite what schools are asking of him and despite what I want for him。 These chapters helped me to believe that in the end， things most likely will be okay， despite that I cannot save him from himself right now。 。。。more

Ruth ，

Halfway through this book I realized that I was not the audience for this book。 This book is really about kids who "opt-out" of school and society， kids who are barely getting by。 However， I pushed through and finished the book and I'm glad I did。 There is always one idea that you had not considered， or a new vocabulary you needed to have conversations with your teen son。 For me， personally， one of the best things about this book was all the charts - whether it was about learning organizational Halfway through this book I realized that I was not the audience for this book。 This book is really about kids who "opt-out" of school and society， kids who are barely getting by。 However， I pushed through and finished the book and I'm glad I did。 There is always one idea that you had not considered， or a new vocabulary you needed to have conversations with your teen son。 For me， personally， one of the best things about this book was all the charts - whether it was about learning organizational skills， or giving you an arsenal of words to help your son learn about/describe himself， they were a great resource。 And like all the best parenting books， there is always the reminder that: （1） your child is perfect just the way they are and not when they finally "live up to their potential" and （2） it's always possible that your parenting issues are really not about your child， they are about your own personal unhealed childhood trauma。 There is one big shortfall though - even though the author does mention ASD， ADHD， and executive function issues， if your teen son is having difficulties in school and life because he is not neurotypical this book is not for you。 I imagine that you are going to need much more than just a book to help you help your child。 。。。more

Clarissa ，

I try to take most parenting books with a grain of salt （otherwise I get overwhelmed）， so I can’t say that everything resonated with me when I read this。 However， I really did appreciate much of what was presented in this book。 It’s helpful to recognize what actual development and maturation looks like in our teens， as well as how different parenting styles influence （positively or negatively） such growth。 And while this book is geared towards adolescent boys and their struggles， I feel like it I try to take most parenting books with a grain of salt （otherwise I get overwhelmed）， so I can’t say that everything resonated with me when I read this。 However， I really did appreciate much of what was presented in this book。 It’s helpful to recognize what actual development and maturation looks like in our teens， as well as how different parenting styles influence （positively or negatively） such growth。 And while this book is geared towards adolescent boys and their struggles， I feel like it can be applied to teen girls， as well。 。。。more

Stacey Crate ，

A few good takeaways， but the reader should know this book is targeted to a very specific type of teenage son。

Jodi Z ，

There were some great points brought up in this book。 I'm not sure I will ever read it from cover to cover but it did help shed some light on some of the struggles of today's teen boys。 There were some great points brought up in this book。 I'm not sure I will ever read it from cover to cover but it did help shed some light on some of the struggles of today's teen boys。 。。。more

Jaycee Limutau ，

Really loved this book。。。 I feel like answers started coming more towards page 67ish。。。 my memory？:/Definitely worth a read 。 The author focuses on boys but it really resonated with me for my 13 yearDaughter。 So many similarities in his stories and helpful advice to help me give confidence to my kids in their school work etc。

Maggie ，

Read for the chapters on executive functioning。 Even though published fairly recently， later chapters feel dated in their perspective on masculinity。 Def skimmed or skipped chapters as they were irrelevant to my family。

Kerri ，

This book really helped me understand my 16 year old boy。 And although some of my sons issues stem from living through a pandemic， there were many times I saw my son in this book and realized things I could do to better support him。 Or simply leave him alone。 I think this book was very helpful。 It took me a while to get through as I needed to ponder many of his ideas but I think I will listen to it again， and pick up different pearls the second time around。

Marissa ，

This book is an excellent source of insight into the mind of an apathetic teenager and offers wonderful advice as to how to love and support them through their struggles！

Sheryl F ，

This was extremely well-written， had a ton of good points， and often I felt the author was speaking directly to me about my son。 There were a couple things I did not agree with， but overall， there are some great things to work on， and it helped me understand what’s happening in my son’s head at his current stage of life。 （The grammar police in me had a major issue with the excessive spelling errors， but oh well。） Great book， overall。

Melissa ，

So thankful a friend recommended this book to me。 I learned so much in trying to understand my teenage son and what I should/shouldn’t be doing with my relationship with him。

Tim Prior ，

Lots of Common SenseThis is a quick read and a good reminder that I'm probably over reacting。 There are action steps that I intend to try with my children， as I think that a lot of this advice is applicable to boys and girls。 Lots of Common SenseThis is a quick read and a good reminder that I'm probably over reacting。 There are action steps that I intend to try with my children， as I think that a lot of this advice is applicable to boys and girls。 。。。more

Lina Thomas ，

It was an important read when my kids were in a traditional classroom。 In pandemic times school and completing work and getting tings done is not as hard as it was before。 I am evaluating so many things in my mind about the education system and who it chooses to leave behind， the staunch position on conformity and its lack of imagination

Anne Snyder ，

Excellent book about how you， as a parent or educator， can motivate teen boys who are opting out。

Ludmilla ，

I wish I read this book during my son’s sophomore year。

Brooke ，

I have SUCH mixed feelings about this book。 There are some really wonderful and wonderfully presented strategies that I will use with students and likely the 16yo in my house。 I would consider buying this book。 And then， I got to about 40% and the next 50-60 pages were just AGGRAVATING。 One of Price's PRIMARY tenets as to why boys opt-out is because they are SO FEARFUL of protecting their budding masculinity that by doing nothing it proves how masculine they are， and helps them avoid the worst f I have SUCH mixed feelings about this book。 There are some really wonderful and wonderfully presented strategies that I will use with students and likely the 16yo in my house。 I would consider buying this book。 And then， I got to about 40% and the next 50-60 pages were just AGGRAVATING。 One of Price's PRIMARY tenets as to why boys opt-out is because they are SO FEARFUL of protecting their budding masculinity that by doing nothing it proves how masculine they are， and helps them avoid the worst fate possible， being called a faggot or a pussy。 While a completely agree that we need to keep investigating gender differences both in brain biology， behavior and the like， and that such differences exist his approach was gross。 Additionally， what about our LGBTQ boys that approach their transformation into sexual beings in perhaps a different way？ Or our girls that are opt-outs for （other） reasons that compare to their male counterparts that Price has completely alienated。 Price also has a lot of opinions about what happens in schools and what teachers do， and while he obviously works with young people， he has NOT spent much time close to the workings of education since he became an adult， if his writing is any indication。 After this chunk of the book， we get back into some decent ideas and usable strategies and there's an ok appendix of resources at the end。Reading the book is probably worth your time if you're an educator or have an "opt-out" child。 Skip the middle section。 If you want to buy the book， buy it used。 。。。more

Nicole ，

Great book about raising teenage boys。 Would highly recommend！

Jed ，

If you have a boy that’s a child or teen then you won’t regret reading this。 It seems to me that parents are faced with parenting kids through a world that is so different than our own childhood that we need all the help we can get。 Books like this are a great resource。

Alicia Snyder ，

Excellent， practical， and encouraging guide to helping an opt-out son access his own internal motivation。

Melinda ，

really good insight into teen boys！

Gevar Bonham ，

I would recommend this book to new parents。 We all know that adolescence is a difficult time but Dr。 Price does an excellent job of unpacking the whole experience as it relates to teenage boys and academic success。 I love the clinical， scientific lens that he uses as an expert in this field。 Not only does he provide explanations， but also solutions and new ways to engage with your son in a way that supports his autonomy。 While reading this I felt like I understood my son more and more after each I would recommend this book to new parents。 We all know that adolescence is a difficult time but Dr。 Price does an excellent job of unpacking the whole experience as it relates to teenage boys and academic success。 I love the clinical， scientific lens that he uses as an expert in this field。 Not only does he provide explanations， but also solutions and new ways to engage with your son in a way that supports his autonomy。 While reading this I felt like I understood my son more and more after each chapter。 。。。more

Leslie ，

Overall valid advice for raising any teenager but had some insights and suggestions that are more relevant to teenage boys。 Loved the format， examples and suggestions。 This book not only explains teenage boys minds， it offers solutions or suggestions to issues we as parents might be facing。 Highly recommend！

Pat ，

I wanted to read this because I have 3 grandsons and I want to be supportive of the great job my daughters are doing raising them！

Ike Unger ，

So much great information and practical advice。

Mehjabin Kapasi ，

Excellent perspectives and examples。 Opened up a new way of thinking and empathizing for me and my spouse